If the guys they love are serious about their own opinions and let them know about it the girls will surely back off. That's how Minato convinced Kushina to let him seal Kurama on Naruto.
Does Naruto complain about Sakura berating him and screaming in his face? Sakura has shown to be rude in the past to Naruto. Naruto has yet to retaliate and is okay with the fact that Sakura has the power to scold him. And Minato hinted that Kushina made him into a man. Which is why I believed he was whipped because women that want to be superior over their men in marriage.
Shikaku told Shikamaru that Yoshino has also made him into a man.
Being whipped doesn't mean they don't care. It means that men have their respect for their women pampering them--keeping them in line. When Minato convinced Kushina that sealing Kurama inside of Naruto was a situation that required more than his spouse's decision. Kushina did stated that Minato had won his first argument.
This is one of those situation that a man must take action when necessary. It's unavoidable in a Rel. It has to eventually happen. I'm sure if Shikaku and Yoshino were in Minato and Kushina's shoes. Shikaku would convince Yoshino the exact same thing. And it's up to the wife to accept and Kusina had shown her capabilities that her marriage is not one sided opinion, and Sakura has shown to accept Naruto's opinion over the course of the manga. Sakura and Kushina's Rel with Naruto and Minato is not one-sided versus Yoshino being a very rude wife and mother.