Mm well again, for me there really is no weighing which is worse in that scenario because I feel they are both equally damaging in the long run. It may seem that breaking a childs heart once by letting them know full well and clear they are not a top or even middling priority for you is not as damaging because they only experience it once, but trust me that makes its mark and will never go away. The reason is that for the child, that is no different then saying you never wanted them, and they will carry that thought with them for the rest of their lives. And that scar will never go away without therapy.
Did he? I figured she had to learn that on her own. Maybe he gave her some scroll to learn from.
They both are, but weighted between the two; which is worst is a matter of opinion. Is it better to hurt the child once then let them move on, or to hurt them a little bit each day? Or. Is it better to try but fail, or to never try at all?
On the other hand, if you just keep disappointing your kid day by day then yeah it is constantly hurting but eventually they will just stop caring whether you make good on your word or not. Human thought process has always made preassumptuons on what they recognize as patterns so eventually the child will EXPECT to be let down and then think, yup this parent couldnt care less about me so whatever they probably will break another promise anyway, so, why should I care?
With that in mind I really dont think one is better than the other. Personally speaking