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[theorangehokage]

Yeah,.. most of the times i can solve it but these type of probs are tricky and i dont wana make a wrong move and move "deeper in this cave" so to say..

[Fyuria'sLeo]

I still say to go with the flow. And with the whole sister thing as cupcake-chan said its going to be one of those three things.

[theorangehokage]

mmm... i hope its not 1 or 3

[Chivalrysae]

Since you're still unsure about what direction you want to go, you should talk to the sister since she may reveal to you the real reason why your ex broke up with you. So far it's been mostly speculation. If you can find out the reason behind it, it may make your decision easier. But my advice with the conversation would be to keep it objective and don't commit to getting back together or cutting off ties. Making quick decisions in highly emotional decisions could end up hurting both of you. Just don't let the sister try to sway your decision...she's technically a biased party. Maybe go for a walk or a run and sort out your own emotions and make the best decision for YOU. Just remember that your happiness is just as important as anyone else's. In cases like this, it's ok to be a little selfish.

Me, personally, I have a policy of breaking up and getting back together. I don't. I just tell the girls I date that I don't do the breaking up and getting back together thing because I would rather we openly communicate and work things out together. If something is bothering her, I'd want her to tell me. I saw a lot of it happen at college I hated to see my friends constantly get hurt over and over by the same person.

[Chivalrysae]

And good luck.