It's pretty much a case of how Naruto is intended to be written coming into conflict with how he is actually written. He's supposed to grow into this compassion, empathetic character that other ninjas gather around. He can connect with his enemies and even help lead them out of the darkness, like Luke did for Vader or the "you're stronger than you think you are" scene from All Star Superman. He's supposed to go from the boy who wanted to be Hokage for the respect and recognition to a caring, selfless individual.
Then you get Naruto flipping out because people want Sasuke dead for all the things he's done. You get the revelation that his attraction to Sakura was just him trying to one-up Sasuke, something Sakura thought before she got to know him in a scene that painted her as a massive kitten in the eyes of the fandom. Naruto wanted Sasuke back because of his own desires. Even NaruHina fans repaint the situation of the Uzumaki home with Naruto looking at the troublemaker Boruto with an expression that says "that's my boy" rather than angrily yelling at him while telling him to endure his loneliness. Naruto is arguably just as selfish as he started the manga as, and I've even seen people say he only has empathy when he sees himself reflected in his foes. He doesn't put himself into other people's shoes, he only sees someone who has the same shoes as he does.
Yeah, Naruto should have gone through something akin to Peter in Spider-Man: Homecoming, when Peter, in his overzealous drive to prove himself to Tony and earn a spot on the Avengers, he not only ends up screwing up an undercover sting set up by Tony to catch Toomes and his crew (which ended up showing a lack of faith in others), but almost gets everyone else on that ship killed too, and then, to top it all off, ends up saying how he's nothing without his suit, which leads to one of my favorite Tony quotes, "If you think you're nothing without the suit, then you shouldn't be wearing it", leading to Peter having to learn that it was always his own strength and will that made him strong, allowing him to confront and defeat Toomes, and even earning a spot on the Avengers like he wanted, only to, thanks to his own maturation, turn it down and opt to gain more experience "closer to the ground" first.
You could easily replace Peter with Naruto, and the Spider-Man suit with his position as Hokage and/or Kurama and his chakra, and make things more interesting, where Naruto could, once again, have to learn to win with his own power, like how he started to with his elemental training after the four-tailed incident and not rely on a "suit" (position / Kurama cloak).
And that was most likely me who brought up Naruto's "empathy" only towards others who were like bad foils of himself as I've brought it up several times here recently, lol. I mean, you notice that almost every antagonist or cynical person he tries hard to change with Talk no Jutsu is someone that Naruto could have potentially become if the circumstances weren't slightly different, but when it comes to virtually anyone else who isn't relatable to him on such a personal level, whether it was the main story (Madara, Kabuto, Orochimaru, etc.), anime original fillers (Raiga, for example), or (non-canon) movies (Koyuki, Toneri, etc.), Naruto doesn't try anywhere near as hard to change / help them.
The Raiga example, out of examples off the top of my head anyway, really stands out because that anime original filler also blatantly showed overlapping parallels between him and Ranmaru with Zabuza and Haku, complete with numerous flashbacks, and yet where Naruto poured out his heart and caused Zabuza to cry and admit how much he truly cared about Haku rather than try to kill Zabuza, Naruto didn't seem to have any qualms about just beating Raiga down, leading to Raiga's death by suicide with his own swords and freeing Ranmaru from him, showing that SP just completely ignored Naruto's empathetic nature and focused only on him seeming to be more about failing to save Haku, probably as a connection to failing to "save" Sasuke, which was reading things completely incorrectly..
Everyone became selfish. Sakura selfishly continued to pursue Sasuke without caring how Naruto or even Sasuke felt about it. Sasuke decided to accept Sakura's servitude without caring how Sakura or Naruto might be affected by it. But yes, Naruto is the worst of all. He selfishly pushed Sakura towards Sasuke without even caring about how it would affect Sakura to keep chasing after a murderer. Sakura wanted a safe port in a storm which was Naruto. Sasuke did nothing but hurt her and Sakura acknowledged this. She wanted to be with Naruto and leave whatever childish feelings she had for Sasuke in the past. Naruto won't accept this. He has to get Sasuke under his control and the idea of abandoning him is something he finds repulsive.
Sasuke was on a quest to kill Itachi in hopes of eventually coming to terms with what happened to his family. Just let him do it. If you have to fight him at some point then so be it. Why do you want to control his life? It's something Sasuke feels that he has to do. Who are you to stop him? How is it worth poisoning your relationship with Sakura just to manipulate her into continuing to chase after Sasuke? She wasn't much help anyways.
Sakura nearly got killed IMMEDIATELY because of this deranged and selfish decision.
Her decision tree was:
If he accepts, go back to Konoha with Naruto. Don't try to kill Sasuke.
Confess to Naruto to get him to stop chasing Sasuke. /
\ If he declines, try to kill Sasuke.
She would not have tried to kill Sasuke if Naruto had been reasonable. If she just had to kill Sasuke because she loved him, why was it that she would have taken Naruto back to the village and as a result, not try to kill Sasuke? It's clear that once again, her care for Naruto won out over this supposed great love for Sasuke. But did Naruto give a damn? No.
And as I brought up before, Naruto (and others) show their hypocrisy when they seem to have no problem with Team 10, Shikamaru especially, seeking revenge on Kakuzu and Hidan for Asuma's death, and even actively assisting them in seeking them out and fighting them. And then you got Shikamaru being a hypocrite (again) when he talks about the cycle of revenge that would happen if Kumo were to hunt down and kill Sasuke. (Most of the rookies would want revenge on them for killing Sasuke, then Kumo would want revenge for them killing their shinobi, etc.)
What makes it worse is that, while not to say Asuma's death means nothing at all, it was NOTHING COMPARED to what Sasuke had lost. Asuma was a grown man, actively in the field, with a large bounty on his head, and in a profession where they are (or should have been) taught to EXPECT a good possibility of death, and was able to fight back and simply lost. The Uchiha Clan, while they may have been plotting the coup, had not yet been doing anything when Itachi (and "Madara") had begun slaughtering them; basically ambushing them, killing them in their homes and a number of them most likely in their beds, in their sleep, where they had NO chance of fighting back or at least defending themselves, and on top of that, you had Sasuke's mind screwed with by Itachi, who mocked him on top of showing the murder of their parents over and over again.
Yet, it's Sasuke's thirst for revenge that most felt needed to be tamped down whereas Shikamaru's thirst for revenge (to which he was even willing to defy direct orders not to pursue Kakuzu and Hidan, which, in the military dictatorship that makes up the shinobi world, could easily amount to sedition, if not treason) was just fine for most of those same people.
I was under the impression that any threats to Sasuke is PUNISHIABLE BY DEATH" in his eyes, so why his he letting Orochimaru walk away with THAT? No, forget the fact that Orochimaru killed thousands of villagers from their home, experimented on said citizens, including children in secret, killed Hizuren who was like a grandfather to him, and started a war in the village that would escalated further, because Naruto doesn't give an EFF about any of that, as recent Boruto episodes can attest to. 
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