Guys, guys, guys! Let's not get into an argument. Bail,sushi, you both are right about this discussion.
I didn't even realize we were in an argument. I'll try to end it with this post.
You said two of the scenes I mentioned were anime only and when I offered you evidence you demanded I found it. It doesn't hurt to be polite, ask or give thanks. Then I showed you the panels and you changed your point entirely. You know that I never said Naruto denied Nejis pain. He acknowledged it, without expressing sympathy. Had his words been somewhat different, like «I understand your pain but your cousin is hurting as well», itd be easier to stomach.
Hinatas pain is due to neglect because she was an underdog, not because of the branch system. We dont know how the system makes Hinata feel. And Hiashi was head of the clan, he wasnt made to kill his brother. He did it on his own accord. He never showed internal struggle or hesitate, he was in favor of the system.
The thing is you kept saying that you had evidence of Neji being abused by the Hyugga clan in the manga; beyond what happened in the Neji fight flashback. I said that's unlikely since after the Neji fight the hyuuga plot stops being relevant at all to the manga, and was likely filler from the anime; which I don't care about. You insisted that you had manga panels. I said show them. Now granted I doubted their were panels but I may have been wrong. Then, you said, you didn't have the panels, that it was likely from the anime, and then had that tumbler link.
So, I figured the discussion was over and it was best to move on to the other topic you had. The tumbler topic talking about the Neji fight.
Now here is a series of question I like you to think on before you post a reply. Can only the oppress suffer? Are oppressors immune to all forms of suffering because they are "oppressors?" Is it impossible that both the oppressed and oppressors are merely trapped in a corrupt system that they don't know how to fix/end or even if they can try? Are the oppressed completely justified in anything they do to their oppressors?
Naruto did sympathize with Neji but he felt that his suffering did not justify him being an ass, and he wasn't the only person to suffer neither in life nor the hyuuga clan situation. So if he was such a genius he should try to change it and Naruto would help once he became hokage.
Hinata is a failure because she fails to live up to the expectations that she had as the clan heiress therefor losing the position to her younger sister. You cannot separate her being a failure and her failing to live up to the expectations of her clan as the main branches' heiress, because that is why she is a failure as well as the cause of all her suffering.
Hisashi did not kill his brother but he could not stop that his brother was sacrificed for him and had to live with that. He did not want him to die. Him bowing his head to Neji after his fight is proof of that. Have you forgotten that scene? He wanted to end it he just didn't know how and was stuck in a bad system he didn't know how to fix. Same with his brother. Same with Neji.
And again, all this was abandon because they didn't want the heroine and mother to the sequel protagonist to have the awkward "former slave master" title attached to her.