So I included NH and SS together because so often these pairings work in tandem. If an author writes NH, then Sakura seems to be almost always paired with Sasuke. And vice versa, though not as much.
I always thought that was in part because both in fanfiction and manga they work well together as pairings of convenience. Nobody in the main three pairings gets left out and has to be alone.
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Anyway, the point I'm getting at is a lot of times it seems like the pairings are just to keep things equal. There's not much thought in them past that. And you can see where all the pairings are going to fall: ShikaTema, ChojiIno, etc. So it's less about development and more about the author's desire to tie up the loose ends of the manga by assigning all the players their partners, and then shuffling around those pairs.
Personally, for some reason NH really bothers me, whereas SS does not. I think it's because I can feel some sympathy for a well-written Sasuke, whereas Hinata just leaves me flat. And yes, in the few SS stories that I like, Naruto is always paired with Hinata. So I skip over those parts when I read them. haha! Double standard much?! Why, yes! Yes I do!

I don't think it is. I'm the same way. Between the two I'd rather read SS, but for the most part when I read Sasuke centric stuff, I'm not really reading for romance.
In the right hands, Sasuke can be a deep and fascinating character. The life of never-ending trauma and manipulation by pretty much everyone who has ever known him can be worth reading if someone really wants to spend the time with it. IMO, it's not just the sympathy angle, but everyone who has ever known has jacked around with him and tried to get him to do what they wanted for them.
Now that I think about it has anyone
ever (besides Kakashi at team introductions) asked what Sasuke wanted out of life? Even Naruto's rescue mission is partly for Naruto's own benefit.
Anyway, I don't have the same interest in her character. Her story is pretty bland at this point. I think if Kishimoto had given her an existence beyond Naruto, I might feel a little different, but even when I look at her family I think find more interest in Neji and Hanabi.
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I just wanted to know, if I'm the only one that feels this way? Annoyed when romance that isn't canon -I don't mind MinaKushi for example at all of course- is stuffed into the plot for no good reason? Am I the only one that finds it unappealing? Do people really like shallow romances?
.... I really hope I put this in the right section.
Well, yeah, some do, but I do think that's really the issue. I consider myself pretty picky and I admit even if it is well written there are certain characters and pairings I don't care about or flat out do not like. I don't want to read about those even if it is well written and deep. I'm not not just reading about romance in the abstract.
At the same time, even if it's pairings I like I don't want to spend time reading junk. I'm not going to spend time with a NaruIno (a pairing I really like) fic regardless of how much I like the pairing if it's poorly written and shallow.
So...yeah, when it comes to romance, I do care about who shacks up with who to the point where I won't read even well written stuff that focus on people and pairings I hate. I can manage if it's only a minor side issue to an otherwise interesting and well written story. At the time, I will still stay away from crap no matter the pairing. Crap is Crap.
As to the rest of your post, I don't mind romance creeping into such things cannon or not, so long as it doesn't overtake the fic. In your father/son example, I'd quit reading if Minato ending up falling into the role of matchmaker or his primary interest in Naruto got reduced to getting his son paired off. If it's a side issue, I could probably manage as long as I didn't hate the pairing or if I did, that the Minato/Naruto stuff was so good I could ignore the rest.
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In fact, strangely, I really enjoy 2 other Sakura crack pairings - Sakura/Itachi and Sakura/Gaara, but I cannot, for the life of me, be taken to Naruto paired with any other girl other than Sakura !
I enjoy lots of Naruto crack and a decent amount of Sasuke crack. I've had a hard time find Sakura crack I like. SakuLee...I could probably do that. I can't do SakuIta though. I don't know why. I really don't like any Itachi pairings.
Saku/Gaara? Might have to give that a shot. I'm not a huge Gaara fan, but I guess it worth a try.