So, are you saying that Lee's feelings for her, once she realized he was sincere, boosted her self esteem to the point that she could now see Naruto's feelings for her more accurately? I can see that - if that is what you're trying to get at.
You're right - Sakura had every right to get pissed at Naruto for saying what he did, and she still gets angry with him when he acts immature/rude to others (though he obviously getting better, and Sakura's been laying off of him as a result). I find it funny when people get so angry at the claim that Naruto needs Sakura to keep him in line, when its been shown multiple times that Sakura is a positive influence on his reckless behavior (I think immediately of the times when Sai got Naruto seeing red, and Sakura was able to get Naruto to calm down by just saying his name).
Like you said, I just misunderstood what you were saying.
Still, there are still two things that bother me about the notion of Sakura being cognizant of her feelings for Naruto so early on. If she was, as you say, then why:
1) was Sakura so shocked when Yamato talked about the strength of her feelings for Naruto?; and
2) why didn't Sakura think of Naruto when the love letter nin said, "If you love him, then he must be a great guy" --> it was said in present tense, and Naruto is a great guy, and Sakura knows that; if she were consciously in love with Naruto, even if she were ashamed of once being in love with Sasuke (who is definitely not a great guy), why wouldn't she then afterwards think of Naruto?
Keep in mind I'm not making the argument that Sakura isn't in love with Naruto --> I just think that she's not cognizant of the nature of those feelings, while you do. I respect your interpretation of the manga, and if you can convince me otherwise, then I certainly wouldn't mind.

Just wanted to know your thoughts on those two points.
I totaly agree with this.
One would think that someone who constantly puts you down, ignores you, slaps apples out of your hands after trying to feed them, ignore your love confession, almost run a sword through you, attempts to shoot lightning through your back and tries to cut your throat will be enough reason for you to stop loving them.
Nonetheless, it seems that Sakura's choice of Naruto over a redeemed Sasuke would be the only way it could go without making it look like Sakura chose Naruto because of an absent Sasuke.
I agree with this even more.
I have to disagree on the whole rebound thing, it annoys me when people say that Naruto is Sakura's" silver medal" because there's no such thing as a silver medal. If that's the case then I guess people are forbidden to move on from your first love and fall in love again with someone else who will be even be better than your first. Where does it say that people can't fall in love again? That they have continued loving their first love? Or are they destine to think of a relationship that's impossible or out of reach even fixing because both we're completely different people and it wasn't going to work. Sakura has already chosen who she loves, who she wants to protect from Sasuke none the less. I still highly believe she move on from Sasuke but we're assuming that she might still held feelings for him, and the only evidence we have is her thinking of of an evil Sasuke with flames on the background from a panel (that's enough proof

). I will think differently if the image was of a smiling twelve year old Sasuke but that's not the case. Sakura hasn't said anything of still loving Sasuke, she said in 470 that she doesn't love him anymore, however not caring for him is a different story. She hasn't stop caring for him as a friend, and former teammate as the boy who used to be her crush. She is conflicted because of her bond to him just like Naruto and it's not easy to severe those bonds, even Sasuke himself is having problems with that.
But I will believe her words from 459 as the ultimate truth to her character. She doesn't want to make another mistake, then she said she doesn't love Sasuke anymore, but she lied in saying that she didn't care for him anymore (loving-caring). And then her words to Naruto from 469 how she feels for him (reminding again she doesn't want to make another mistake). Followed by Kishi's words that he thought he was making an honest girl surprisingly stubborn. I highly believe she doesn't love Sasuke anymore because through her actions we see who is the person most important to her. Can Kishi make it anymore obvious who Sakura truly loves? In this upcoming movie he might give the most obvious hint (even after all the hints and parallels he has given in his manga).
I cannot agree with this, I know Sakura has strong feelings for Naruto that goes beyong friendship I also thinks she needs another push to completely let go of her romantic affection for Sasuke. Why does she love him? Is one way to start, we still don't know what's is the real reason behind this romantic affection and the reason for her total commitment to him. If her reasons are the ones we already seen, then there is something really wrong with her, anyway we also need to see Sakura for the first time questioning her reason for loving this guy. A flash back of all the events they had, positive and negative would be a good way to start.
I'm positive that if Kishi does the realistic option Sakura will let go her romantic feelings for Sasuke, for good. Sure it would still be normal if she still wishes for him to let go of his evil path do to Kishi's unrealistic view of a dysfunctional bond that he calls unbreakable bond, but after her reflection it would be seen very awkward for her to still sustain her romantic feelings. To be honest Sasuke never made her happy, his presence maybe but Sasuke personally never tries to make her happy apart from the day hecomplemented her Genjutsu.
Another realistic scenario would be if Naruto tells her that the reason why he respected her feeling is because he realized that she really loved Sasuke and he thought that Sasuke was the only one could made her happy, but as long that she're happy, he would be happy for her to even if her happiness is not with him, that would be a perfect moment for Sakura to shut him up call him
''Baka'' and correct him it would be more realistic if she is honest with him and herself about how she really feeled for Sasuke at the time of her confession and before the confesson, then expline him that Sasuke is no longer the person she want to be with or share her loves life with anymore, tell Naruto that he's the person she really grown to love and he means a lot to her, he means a lot more than anyone else.