The way that I, and many, many other girls, were brought up was sexist. That's the point. It was sexist, dehumanizing, and, worst of all, normalized. The men in that community didn't experience that. Just the girls.
I wish it were that easy. Change has never happened from ignoring oppressors. It sends the message that they aren't in the wrong. It is not me who needs to change. It is those who enforce oppression. Please don't tell people how to react to their oppressors.
The only thing that men have to cover up are their sexual organs. Females aren't granted the same courtesy, because they have to cover every body part that might tempt men. And before anyone says anything, boobs aren't sexual organs, they're mammary organs.
Yes, but like you said, by far most rapists are men, which is incredibly telling.
The mentality the men who enjoy lesbian porn but think homosexuality is gross is, "Gay people are bad unless they can please me!" It goes beyond sexual desire.
The thing is, I don't have any idea who might and might not be a rapist. Every man who approaches me, no matter how nice he is or how charmed I am by him, becomes Schrodinger's Rapist. If he asks for my number, what is his biggest concern? Likely that I might have given him a fake number. What is my biggest concern? "I hope he doesn't stalk/murder/rape me." And, once again, any guy approaching me could be dangerous, because it's almost never immediately evident. Because of this, women have to take precautions against all men, no matter if they actually are dangerous or not. Telling women that oh, you did *insert rape-apologist argument here*, so you just weren't careful enough, is, not only normalizing rape and incredibly damaging to an already traumatized mind, but is simply untrue. Women have certain precautions instilled in them, that's why we can immediately tell if a guy is bothering another girl and quickly rush to her aide. There are phone apps, set-up fake numbers, social signals, A LOT of things that help prevent rape, but rape still happens. The same is not true for victims of mugging, so it is incomparable.
So I was right. Christian home. Look the whole society doesnt do that. Just heavy duty theist who still follow ways that are beyond ancient.
Second please... you are so overusing and missusing the word opresssor. You`ve been raised a certain way. It happened, its sad, fair enough. But oppression is far more aggresive than that. You are not shuned, there is no clear law stating you have to follow the commands of said oppressors. You are in terms of really loose definitions not being opressed. Yes you were mentaly conditions to believe in your inferiority but thats more long term manipulation than full on oppression. Just look at WWII jewish communites or pre equality african americans and tell me that women in the western world had it as bad. Also I am not entirely sure what you want here. You say you wish to be equal but you do not wish to succeed in life. Im sorry but if prooving your oppressors wrong by being succesful in life is changing than id rather not as what you do currently.
+ If simply ignoring the opressors helps a huge deal than its not oprresion. Its organised bullying.
Well what else is there to cover up? The ass? We cant show that aswell. + Horny rapist guy that sees boobs is not going to care one bit what their classification is.
I think you had my point on the lesbian thing wrong. Straight males like girls. One girl is awesome. Two girls even better (might be sexist but I read a post on the net somewhere and it just made sense). And if you are going to watch porn featuring 2 girls you have 2 options. Either insert a guy and have a treasome. But then its another guy doing it and you are just kinda meh. But lesbian sex features no dingdongs except your own and that is why some/plenty guys find it attractive. (Derived from the one sausage per phantasy rule).
Yes but there is a method to these things. I know its not my place to say this but heres some quick tips how to avoid or spot a rapist.
- The bloke tries to pick you up at a bar or nightclub. Hes drunk you might be drunk it will end badly. So dont let him. ( kinda read this sentense in Judge Judy`s voice).
- Here`s a trick i learned during my old stalker days (long story dont ask, nobody was hurn or inconvenienced in any way). See if I follow somebody for any reason than my walking speed is going to adapt authomaticly to theirs (its a reflex comes in handy). So if you feel as if someone is following you try to change walk speed and listen to his foot steps or just randomly use the crossroads.
- Don`t use heels. They are unconfortable, if you arent looking to pickup guys they arent functional so whats the point. It just makes you slower.
Im not trying to tell what to do but street rapists are somewhat not all that covert.
Umm using a video game as a point to your argument probably isn't the best thing to do because it doesn't prove your point very well. Fighting isn't just throwing punches and hoping you land one. You don't have to know martial arts to win a fist fight either.
Now...I have a question for you because I'm genuinely confused and wish to know the answer. How does one, exactly, act their gender? If a guy decides to wear eye liner for example, or if he's weaker than a girl because she's just physically stronger than him (and that's possible), is he no longer a man? Why should we expect someone to act the way society says they should just because they are male or female? Why can't we just expect them to be themselves as long as no one gets hurt (i.e they do the right thing). And you're right there's nothing wrong being raised as a tough person and I never said there was. But why should one gender be raised one way and the other another? Why can't girls be raised to be tough, too? I'm sorry to hear about your regret, but life happens, right? If you wish to be a fire fighter that badly, why not try to overcome them by getting help? Maybe it's not so much that your dad raised you wrong. Maybe you just have to try...and that's something a parent can't teach you how to do. 
Yea but if the match is so equal then why is it a problem when a guy beats a woman (for the sake of argument lets say she had it comming) and alright when a woman does it to a man.
First of I actually am a firefighter. 1 year from full operational duty. Be advised were valunteers. I just wish I wasnt afraid of hights. I can absail like a boss if i am not in a space too open.
Second. If the kid is feminie by nature then fine. If a girl is a tomboy... perfect (because tomboys are my type, dont like girly girls al that much). The problem arises when one parent tells the other, no you cant tell him that because that will make him [insert boyish thing here]. The old saying boys will be boys and girls will be girls is a decent guideline. Put a kid on a playground see what he does. But dont change him because its the latest parental trend. Like the self-esteem movement. That is the most rediculous thing imaginable. I wont go into details why but its purely retarded.
@Striker There is something wrong with being raised tough if it is presented as your only option. If a boy has feminine traits and a girl has masculine ones, who cares?
Exactly who cares. I didnt say it was obligatory I said there was nothing wrong with it. If the kids metro fine. Just dont force him to be metro. Thats the issue.
Now I am going to ask something kinda random.
Why is the feminist movement that has achieved 85% of its goals so strong and powerful and yet the people who in the western world are actually opressed have such a low support rate. I am talking about the LGBT community. They cant be who they are, they cant marry, they cant have kids. Why are they receievening so little support?
Edited by StrikerTheNoble, 26 June 2014 - 09:22 PM.