Still on vacation, but thought I drop by to sit down and have a little chat.
When you love someone you are willing to do anything for them. This is pretty obvious by now and many know what it means. You love someone more than you love yourself to the point that nothing else matters. Some call this stupidity cause they feel what happens if it doesn't work out? You spent a good protion of your life doing things for a person who didn't deserve it. While that may be be true,half of life is heartache and sorrow. You can't avoid it unless you want to close off all communication with life that ever exist. Even losing a pet may make you feel sadness.
Some may say they can live without love, but the truth is they think of love is always some kind of realtionship lovers status when really it is really a form of it. What about the love of friends and family? Love that maybe a pet can bring you. Unless you truly want to be a robot, emotions are apart of who you are. It is what makes up your personality and character. I know life can bring sadness, but it can also bring happiness too. So many focus so much on what is bad, they never want to see what is good.
This is what they describe pessimism. To tell the truth, you are not being a realist if all you ever say is "Bad will always happen." Being a realist is understand that you don't know what will happen. Yeah bad can happen, but good can happen too and living like bad is always going to happen is how you live in fear of living your life.
There is one thing I do find a bit odd. How can someone, anyone, tell another that they should be selfish and do what makes them happy yet when that other person tells that that what they want to do is love them they tell them that it is wrong? This is why I try to be careful what I tell to people. You never know what they will say or do with the advice given and some take it so seriously, they turn your entire point into a reason to stop living all together. Eventually, you will ahve to learn on your own and find your own path. Advice can be given, but it is only to guide you the door. You have to open it yourself.
I have said several times on this blog that there was someone I have feelings for. Someone who I find who is very perfect. She claims imprefection, but having flaws is not what makes us perfect. It is the that she doesn't let these flaws keep her from reaching more. I do want to be with her and maybe live a good happy life someday, but even I am not certain of what may happen. I will always love her though because it is what I want to do. I want to love her with all my heart and not be ashamed to do so. I do hope one day she returns my feelings and loves me too, but for now I am happy just seeing her everyday and letting her know how I truly feel about her. If I can make her smile, then it is all worth it.
Hope you're enjoying your vacation man! :)
Anyway, whenever topics like these arise, I can't help but immerse myself in the discussion. The topic with is pretty much the answer to all of mankind's problems and the things that many people seek each day...
Anyway, what to say... many people believe that love is complicated. The have been hurt by "love" and thus, they may even close the door to it. Funny thing is that, no matter how tight that door is, there is usually someone who will open it again, be it a friend or a family member with a good piece of advice, or simply someone who enters to your life and surprises you. But anyway, let's go onto topic:
Is funny how sometimes we give our all for someone. Do we need a reason? You could say that. But the reason is to make that person happy. To see their smile in the good times and to help them fight those bad moments. We give ourselves to the task of making that person happy and feel loved, even if that love is limited to a "filial love (love between friends)". And even though it may seems that we lose ourselves, in reality, we find ourselves and we build ourselves once again while giving ourselves to others. That's why people say that there is more happiness in giving than in receiving. This is how love truly works. Of course, we must also love ourselves because if we don't love ourselves, then how can we love others. But this doesn't mean that i disagree with you. This only means that, is your happiness lies in making others happy, then this is the way of showing that you love yourself.
Now then, this isn't only about romantic love, right? This is about every kind of love. And although our thoughts can be quickly channeled towards romantic love whenever the word "love" comes to mind, there are many different types of love. And that's why I agree with you, because in reality, no one can live without love. Even if there is no romantic love, there will always be love for friends, love for family, love for the things you do... love will exist in our lives no matter how much we deny it. And if someone were to close all those doors... then they would probably go insane. I have made the mistake of trying to close all those doors... in the day that I almost achieved it... well, it was the darkest day of my life.
Anyway, one thing that many people may confuse is love ans selfishness. This is very difficult to discuss because, when you say to someone that you love them, they may take it as if you were saying "would you like to have a relationship with me?". And well, this isn't necessarily true, because loving someone means that you will work to make them happy, and if they're happy on their own or with someone else, then you are happy because they are happy. Now, there is one thing that we have to be careful about. Sometimes, in the process of loving someone, our desire to be corresponded grows. This may not be our goal, but it happens, because there is always a glimpse of hope. We begin to believe that said person will be happier if they are with us and that's when "love" becomes painful. This why I believe that we must always watch our heart whenever we love someone, because if we let it get carried away, we may say something that may hurt them in the process.
But of course, this won't happen as long as our determination to make that person happy is stronger than our selfish desires. If we are indeed corresponded, then that only means that the person has decided to give their love to us and they feel happy with giving us their love. And although this may sound like love is a property, it is quite the contrary. Love is something you wish to do and to give to others. :)
Another thing to keep in mind is that some people fear being loved by another because that might make them feel like "they owe you". This of course, if not true. You give of yourself because you wish to give, and not because you are expecting anything in return.
So in the end, I could say that we should feel fortunate whenever someone loves us because this is their way of saying that they want us to be happy, but I can understand why people say these things. After all, the concept of love has been a bit clouded, and the real meaning can be a bit hard to fully grasp, even if we believe we know about it. Me? I can safely say that I don't know much about love, and maybe that's why I like to talk about it and learn about it too. After all, by sharing what I know with others, not only I give of my knowledge to them, but I can also learn from then and improve my own definition of love. In doing so, my love for others improves, as I get to learn each day how to love in the correct way. :)
So long story short: If you love someone and your desire is to see them happy, then as long as you work for that person's happiness, I think there is nothing wrong. Be it someone special, be it a friend, be it a family, or be it a pet, we give our love to them because we want their happiness. And in seeing their happiness, our own happiness grows too. 
