51 replies to this topic

[krisk]

LOL "situation" mkay. sry bout that, i'm out

[Mik3]

I'm not trying to throw more gasoline onto the fire but I understand her being upset about the judgmental things. There are girls and guys who feel ready sooner rather than later. OP is not a loser for wanting to enter a meaningful relationship if thats what they want. I think some of us guys get frustrated with finding a girl that frustration can lead us to generalize, and label etc. I used to be like for a little while in my teens, but then I started to just go ahead and date. Learned a lot, especially about what I thought I liked and didn't like. I think you can make the mistake of expecting someone especially tailored to you, and its neither fair or easy. I'm not directing this to anyone specifically, but it can do you well to keep an open mind.

[Ani]

Okay, I'll just say something. Everyone has their own opinion and a right to express it, but they should still be able to accept others opinions even if they don't agree with them. The forum has had a lot of this kind of problem before and people are being offensive to one another. Don't get on to one another just because they don't think the same as you. People shouldn't be getting hate for not thinking like you. But you shouldn't talk badly about other members or their views. So watch what you type, guys.

[LegendaryArcanine42]

Well then, I guess I should be the bigger man person this time and not let this escalate any further...

But my personal rule of thumb is be as rude and abrasive as the person that you're debating with, and because she (btw, sorry for assuming you were a guy, but really was it necessary to be so douchey about it again?) was very disrespectful of someone else's opinion and I retaliated by attacking her attack on someone else...

But hey, the thread will be closed if I continue this right? Well I'll stop my little lesson in dignity then, peace

[Nate River]

Well then, I guess I should be the bigger man person this time and not let this escalate any further...

But my personal rule of thumb is be as rude and abrasive as the person that you're debating with, and because she (btw, sorry for assuming you were a guy, but really was it necessary to be so douchey about it again?) was very disrespectful of someone else's opinion and I retaliated by attacking her attack on someone else...

But hey, the thread will be closed if I continue this right? Well I'll stop my little lesson in dignity then, peace

You weren't the only one at fault, so I'm sorry for singlingly you out when krisk was just as much at fault for the tone of her post. I was wrong to do that.

However, goal we strive for is a civil discussion that's more discussion than ranting and trading of insults. If someone is being a jerk, responding in kind tends to escalate it and make it worse. The back and forth comments that followed are exactly what I mean.

You can respond, report it, or both, but if you respond we do ask that you do your best to remain civil. If they don't feel free and report them and admins and mods will handle it.

Shauna and Trixsie: I think we mean something different. At least, Shauna's case it sounds more like behavior when I refering to personal emotions. You can treat someone with respect without actually having respect for them. To the extent that I'm wrong and you do mean that all I can say is that in my professional life I have met a lot of people who do and say some very awful things. As a officer of the court, I cannot rant away, scream and yell, curse and so on no matter how awful they are (with some very limited exceptions in final argument).

There is an expectation of professionalism, and so I will be respect when I am there even when dealing with cheats, liars, or worse (and those people are not limited to defendants, I once practiced in a jurisdiction where a defense attorney lied to my face on a daily basis), but because of what I know about them I do not respect them or anything they say. I can be cordial, but I cannot respect them.

Such things are not limited to that aspect of my life, but I felt this was the easiest example to use.

[Lid]

Well I don't know bout yall, but all I wanna do is hit da booty dew!

[tricksie]

I disagree, I think they have right to express an opinion, but yeah, per the rules of the board they don't have the right to be a disrespectful while doing it.

Of course. Sorry I didn't make it clear. She has the right to her own opinion, as does everyone. But she doesn't have the right to bang someone else over the head and shoulders with it. I didn't mean it as a blanket term, just in this case and in response to a few other comments.

Edited by tricksie, 22 October 2011 - 01:34 AM.

[Nate River]

Of course. Sorry I didn't make it clear. She has the right to her own opinion, as does everyone. But she doesn't have the right to bang someone else over the head and shoulders with it. I didn't mean it as a blanket term, just in this case and in response to a few other comments.

I'm probably being overly technical about it.

[Nee-sama]

Can I just step in here and be ornery for a moment

[tricksie]

I'm probably being overly technical about it.

Dude that's your job! No worries!

[Amy-chan]

Can I just step in here and be ornery for a moment

Cant stop laughing! omg.

[Sakura Blossoms]

Considering this thread has derailed completely, and we can't seem to get back on track (and images that are not helping the issue are still being posted), and the original question/topic discussion has been answered thoroughly from both sides, this thread is now closed.