Ha yes that's so true, I remember all the panels and chapters of Sakura training and be a better shinobi instead of worrying about Sasuke or bringing him flowers in the hospital or crying to Naruto about Sasuke.
The FOD scene was where Sakura realized that she shouldn't rely on others to save her and that she has to take responsibility and save others. Before this point Sakura's character did indeed revolve around her love for Sasuke. But this was where she started acting like a Shinobi. She was prepared to die protecting Naruto, Sasuke and ROCK-LEE. Her actions here had NOTHING to do with romance. It was all about protecting her friends.
Then followed the Chuunin exams. At that time she loved Sasuke. If we go by what you say- that her life revolved around romance, then what followed in the written test should not have happened. Did she even consider Sasuke, her love interest, when she decided to quit the exam? NO. It was all about Naruto, her friend's dream. No person, whose life revolves around romance , would be capable of this.
Then her fight with Ino. Not once in the entire fight did Sakura think of either Naruto or Sasuke. It was all about Sakura fighting to prove herself as the better Kunoichi, to prove that she had finally come out of Ino's shadow and to prove that she had finally blossomed as a person. And she managed to do so.
What exactly is wrong if Sakura showed care and concern for her team-mates when they were in the hospital? Sasuke started behaving recklessly and this worried and scared her. She then saw her two team-mates nearly kill each other. Later the person she liked knocked her out and left her. All these events upset her and she got emotional over it. Why is she not allowed to do so? Is she not human? Does doing so mean her life revolved around romance?
Did she continue to be depressed over it? NO. She resolved that she would be stronger and of more use to her team mates. She did not sit around doing nothing! While Naruto was training with Jiraiya, she trained with Tsunade perfecting her chakra control and learning medical ninjutsu. She wanted to become a better Shinobi.
She's not but she's neither a multi faceted complex character.
I disagree 90% of her actions can be traced to romance or team 7 related matters, as for the 10% remaining I will let you give some examples because I personally can't remember.
There are so many examples I could give. There was that time when she found out the antidote and cured Kankuro. Then there was her fight with Sasori where she fought to protect Chiyo. These had nothing to do with either Naruto or Sasuke. In fact, Chiyo actually asked Sakura to not throw away her life for an old woman but instead to protect her friends. There are so many more but I can't write them all.
I'll just re-post what I wrote in the chapter thread- her feats in the War-arc.
Who was the one who caught the enemy spy and find out the enemy strategies for the war?
Who was it that gave a speech inspiring the Alliance to fight more for Naruto's sake?
Who was it that healed so many of the injured Alliance members and helped to keep the Alliance's hopes alive?
Who was it that immobilized an army of white zetsu clones with one single strike?
Who was it that managed to destroy hundreds of mini juubis with one strike?
Who was the one praised by Hashirama when he said she had surpassed Tsunade's strength?
Who was the one who helped save Shikamaru and later Obito?
WHO WAS THE ONE THAT SAVED NARUTO'S LIFE AND KEPT HIS DREAMS ALIVE?
Who was the one who played a vital role in saving Sasuke and re-uniting Naruto and Sasuke so that they can seal Kaguya?
Who was the one who managed to give a blow to God-tier Kaguya and break Kaguya's horn while at it?
You can decide for yourself how many of these were influenced by Naruto and Sasuke or Team Seven.
Most of these actions were for the Alliance and for the well being of Konoha.
It was never a goal to begin with, that's the point.
So what? Why does it have to be stated by her that its her aim? Did Naruto ever say he had an aim of surpassing Jiraiya? What matters are not words but actions. She did manage to surpass Tsunade, that's the point.