It is crazy but only now i realize in full capacity how people from the west are so influenced by teenage movies and think that sasuke is a bad boy who needs to be rescued and that in the end he will be rescued by her and they will live happily ever after. but they dont know that japanese culture and manga in general have more deeper meaning than every teenage movie where main heroin is saving guy that has fallen so low, or underdog girl/boy is figting for affection of cool girl/boy and in the and he or she wins that love. But lets face it when that happened in real live sure if you are not famous as a tenager you will fantasize about that cause it shows your inner dreams when you were a teenager, dreams of acceptance and to have someone admire you who has spotlight attention. But later on people who dont develop as persons they cling to those emotions and fantasies , others grow up from that shalownes.
when i was younger when i liked being "cool" i liked to be like sasuke cold guy who never shows emotions, that drivers crazy lots of girls, cause they dont know what is with this guy why is he not paying attention to me i must have him he is soo cool, it goes other way around, but that is all shallow in my opinion.
I grew from that shallownes when i found out that relationships based on that have no real love and frendship no real talk about things , about problems no honesty, only infatuation and passion, passion that drives you crazy in the end, always moving limits of passion till it destroys you.
For a healthy long term relationship you have to be best friend with the person you like (who is better example tha naruto and sakura) accept who she or he is, no judging flaws, but acepting them cause they also make that person unique. Knowing its flaws and virtues not shallow fangirling or fanboying that someone is pefect like kishimoto is showing sakura past time deliberatly only to show her growth today, but that is not enough to stop the bashing of sakura. Love that comes from friendship is love that is so much stronger than passion love, it is love that has a chance through storms of life and chance of coming live through those storms, but passion love sinks at the first sign of wind, in real meaning those kind of relationships tend to brake down for the slithest problems that are not even problems.
So this manga has cauth my attention cause it is realistic in term of relationship betwen naruto and sakura it is so human and how real love should be like, and i think that kishimoto figured out this though his life, his manga would not be good if he didnt pour his heart into it, his thoughts about life, love,friendship, because he is pouring his heart into it it is that good .
I,now older and i think wiser through life situations and with more experience can tell that i would like strong willed, determened and honest girl around me, who doesnt beat aroud the bush,allways yaping about trivial things, who can stand by me in times of good and evil without looking back and thinking i shouldve picked the other guy, who on the other hand is soft and has her girly side and is so humane and has emphaty to the other people, heck that would be perfect girl in real life , but they are rare, many girls think they are like this but are not, one of hundred or more is like this.
I would compare narusaku love as a foundation for healthy marriage, and type of marriage where you see old couple who has 70 or 80 years and they are so in love with each other and caring for each other, and are always with one another. Once i saw this kind of pair and when wife died, you shouldev seen how the man weeped for that woman, it broke everyones heart on the funeral it was so strong and everybody could see the love, cause they knew the pair. Passion love cant endure this many years if it has not friendship = philia then Eros = passion, and on top of all this agape = real selfsacrificing love that endures till the end. Narusaku in all aspects, they have strong friendship, passion flirtous ways, and selfsacrificing for one another till the end. (yeah sasusaku has sacrifice too, but sasuke whants to sacrifice sakura :-) )
If Sasusaku was two side love it would be passion love with no foundation for agape love, but it was one sided love so it cant even go into category of competing as a love that has a chance.
As for naruhina, i am wondering how many people who are fans of naruhina would like to be stalked everywhere, people like hinata in real life terms are people who are insecure about themselfes and they always call their parner to see where are they to stalk them cause they are afraid that that person is cheating them, but lets be true, if someone whats to cheat on you they will find a way and place whenever, by doing that stalk you are just pushing that person to do that, be free and let others be free, that is also foundation of friendship and real love. Stalk hinata type relationships brake down quickly, and they end up sometimes bad, when guy beats up a girl who broke up with him ,or crazy girl who is stalking by phone all day and night and making all kinds of things to mess up life of that person. Soo in that term many naruhina fans in their hearts are like that on subconcious level, others are boobs and perv all around :-), dominatrics etc, other normal naruhina fans woulve been shocked if their hinata was real person , they would be quickly turned off by that kind of woman, and run like hell from her.
All in all this is my ranting hope you all liked it :-). Wanted to write something bigger cause in a long time i havent seen many narusaku fans writing about their love about the pairing everybody is short these days i remember last year on narutoforums heaven and earth version fandom there was all lively everybody was writting their opinions, but when fanclub broke because it was to big many narusaku ranters were gone for good, hope to read from them some day. It was fun to read all kinds of opinions, so this is mine penny for little narusaku love

Edited by Kobayashi, 19 May 2011 - 07:49 AM.