I believe I was the one who pointed that out, I stated that if Kishi didn't want it to be taking in a romantic light then Naruto should of hold Hinata's hand in a different manner, the problems was that when Reddragon posted that DA link and I re-read back the chapter, Kishi did make Naruto hold her hand lets say not in a full and mutual romantic way, (in other words they were not holding each others hand). Sadly after that someone asked me if it matter how Naruto holds her hand, but to my believe it was a big deal.
About your last point, I always wonder why NS fans where hated so much by the opposition and non pairing fans, people even says that NS fans are so confident and arrogant that they wish that the pairing gets crushed by Kishimoto. So after reading that part of your post I realized that our fandom is not hated because of the fan tards since the amount of them if really small compared to the most civil and mature behaving NS fans, now I'm positive that the NS fan club is hated because of the optimism and extreme confidence the fandom haves.
Agreed. I'll elaborate on that a little below.
Codus...the post was to point at the wrong of both parties: optimist and pessimist.
No offense, but even now you are still blaming the optimists for starting a fight and being too "arrogant." No, from the way I saw it, both were at fault. It wasn't even about difference of opinion either, it was the fact that people started to look down at others. Especially the pessimist who were causing fights among members, egging other members on, and being just as arrogant.
The big fight that occurred happened because the pessimist abandoned ship and the optimist wanted to stay on board. We then got riled up because the pessimist started throwing insults like you are doing now in much harsher tone saying that the optimist are arrogant and running on blind faith and not reading the manga. The optimist retaliate and defended themselves because they didn't like being called blind. They didn't like being put down like that and I can understand why. As you should too.
Most of the optimist stayed positive, but still understood the situation. They didn't deny the fact, only tried to reinforce that this chapter should not have wavered as many people as it did. We been through this hundreds of times with the NH fans about how all the facts are stacked in NS favor. Why should this chapter waver us now? And we know the facts and I have pointed them out. You talk about how the optimist were too arrogant and didn't understand the facts, but I saw the pessimist do the same thing. I saw them push all other facts out the window because this chapter wavered them.
We even have some people, I don't even know if they really were pessimist, egging the optimist on and shooting them down no matter what evidence was brought up. No matter what was said, they shot it down without even debating the facts at all. They just put them down just to see the reaction. So who's fault was it? Both. Both sides antagonized each other and caused the war. I am sure there was some optimist who were arrogant, but that didn't mean to retaliate with the same arrogance. That's bad form and not what we NS members really stood for. I understand the situation and why people freaked out, but we lost what really mattered about us as NS fans and the moral of this website.
For that we should all be ashamed.
And Codus, I want you to be aware that the bolded paragraph you typed here is what caused some of those fights in the first place. Sometimes you just got to say "I disagree, but I respect your opinion." You don't need to egg them on, you don't need to call people names like that. Instead of "arrogant," perhaps the better word would have been "overzealous." Because many of the pessimist were overzealous as well and jump ship at just the hint of NH.
All are to blame because we forgot who we were. It wasn't the optimist fault, it wasn't the pessimist fault. It was both. So I blamed both. I even thought about the posts I made before and realized that yes I made the mistake too.
This is not a blame game, my friend. This is me trying to help the members remember who they are and what they represent. We are all NS fans and we all should remember that. We don't need to fight amongst ourselves. We do enough fighting against the NH fans as is.
Ok, this is what you've said.
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I have been reading the posts over and over and watching how people interact with each other. It is out of control. I have to say something. I want to say something because I am very close to leaving this forum myself until some of you start acting right. I don't mean everything has to be super serious, but some of you are taking things way too far and it is disgusting me to be apart of this website. I don't blame the mods because I know they are trying to keep things civil. I know how hard they are working, but each member has a responsibility too.
First of all, stop egging people on. Some of you are egging other members on and trying to manipulate people into losing their cool. That is called being a troll. It's not funny and the next person who tries I will report them. I will consider you starting trouble and I will report it.
Second, these matters of opinions are getting ridiculous. Yes, you have the privilege to voice your opinion whether in a positive or negative light, but some of you are playing this double standard card of criticizing people on the other side of the fence. EVERYONE has an opinion. EVERYONE has the PRIVILEGE to voice your opinion. It is not a right to have an opinion, it is a privilege. Which means you have responsibility to act right. To behave in a manner that reflects your ideas. If you want to be negative and feel this is the end, that's fine. You can think whatever you wish, but you have NO RIGHT to criticize those who wish to remain positive or want to keep a higher viewpoint. Likewise for the other side: You can remain positive and wish for something better, but as I said if the other people want to be negative let them. This is getting absolutely ridiculous watching people argue back and forth on this. Here is where some of you are saying "well, I am just voicing my opinion." I know you are, but you have to respect the other side too. You have to respect the people who disagree with you.
And stop with this "I don't want to hurt people's feelings" or some asinine tone of acting like you're superior and you know better. Even worse when I see people say "Well, you're bashing because you won't let me have my opinion." I don't see people discussing, I am seeing a bunch of crybabies who can't take criticism. I am seeing a bunch of crybabies argue back and forth on who is right and wrong.
Third, just because people want to be positive does NOT mean they are ignoring facts. It does NOT mean that people refuse to see the truth because what is the truth huh? You know as much of truth as the next person. Some things could be very significant and some things could be not. You don't know. No one knows, but Kishimoto. It has been shown that even he can take a situation that seems very significant and make it insignificant. It has been done before and he will do it again. We don't know what makes an importance in the story and what gets pushed aside. At best for now there is only speculation, not fact. Not yet anyway.
Fourth, people need to stop confusing bashing for criticism. When I made my post about Hinata, it was not some hate crime or some conspiracy theory about how I secretly want Hinata to die. I made my post to show how disappointed I was in thinking that Kishi could make her character more than just canon fodder. Halfstar, stop criticizing people who wanted more from her. You are purposely trying to piss people off like a troll and trying to insult their intelligence. That is member bashing and I will report you if you do that again. In fact, I will report anyone who calls another member delusional or makes a post about insulting their intelligence. I wanted Hinata to be more than canon fodder. I wanted her to be something more than just a throw away character. Kishi could have done that and he didn't. I voiced my disappointment. I don't hate Hinata, I am just disappointed on how Kishi uses her. It's NOT wrong to expect something different. In fact, I am disappointed in how every character has been treated lately. Not just Sakura, not just Hinata, not just Naruto, but every character.
You want to disagree with me, that's fine, but you do not insult me by attacking my intelligence or attacking my reasoning like that.
For once, I am being serious this time. For once, I am going to stand here and tell you all that this...this behavior is NOT what NSFC stands for. I am not talking about differences of opinion, I am talking about the behavior of the members in this thread. Yeah, I like to joke and have fun. Do not get me wrong, but some of you are taking it too far. Some of you want so much attention you are willing to make a fool of yourself to get it. All I want is for this forum to go back to the way it used to be. Before all this started. You know who you are and you know what you do. I am not telling you this to pick on you or to make you feel bad. I am telling you this so you can improve. So some of you can lighten up and calm down.
If some of you need to take time off away from the forum, do it.
I respected all of you. I respected every single one of you and in one chapter some of you betrayed everything you once stood for. No, not about pairing choice, but why we like this forum in the first place. It is not about who wins or loses or who is right or wrong, but to have fun. To enjoy Naruto as a manga and to exchange ideas on what we think is going to happen and what we like to happen. I hope some of you realize what you have done and try to better yourselves from it. We all make mistakes, but true ignorance is never learning from them.
When the next chapter comes out I am not going to be on here because I am afraid things will get worse around here, not better. I am afraid that it will be even more chaotic than now. That's why I am staying away until something different happens.
I'm sorry, but I don't see you pointing out the
faults of
both parties. In this post above, you're coming off as defending just one party: the "Optimists". Unless you point out which part of your post that shows your position as you say it is, I'm sticking to my statement.
And second, no I'm not egging people on. I'm pointing out something people have sorely missed. The lack of humility among our fandom. I will be blunt, our confidence has gotten to the point where we're losing our humility. And I think this makes us no better than the rivaling fandoms.
Third, regarding the bolded, that is very much true, BUT!! from what I've seen in this thread, some of the speculations seem to veer towards
expectations, not
speculations as some people think. Sure, you're speculating, but what you need to make sure that you're not coming off as if you're
expecting them to happen. I am gonna stress this again.
Expectations and
speculations are two whole different things.
I'm willing to respect others' opinions too, but at the very least show some humility towards your opinions. I'd like to point everyone towards this very good article:
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- They whip out something genuine.
Everyone is better than you at something. (Yes, that's true even for you.) Let them be better than you.
Too many people when they first meet engage in some form of kitten-measuring contest. Crude reference but one that instantly calls to mind a time you saw two alpha male master-of-the business-universe types whip out their figurative rulers. (Not literally, of course. I hope you haven't seen that.)
Don't try to win the "getting to know someone" competition. Try to lose. Be complimentary. Be impressed. Admit a failing or a weakness.
You don't have to disclose your darkest secrets. If the other person says, "We just purchased a larger facility," say, "That's awesome. I have to admit I'm jealous. We've wanted to move for a couple years but haven't been able to put together the financing. How did you pull it off?"
This is something that is even applicable to this forum. Even if we're all anonymous people here, as a community we need to learn how to be as graceful as possible towards each other. It's what makes this community stronger as time passes.
Fourth, I prefer not to throw insults either. But sometimes, people need to be taken down a peg. My whole "arrogant" comment is meant to let people know the meaning of humility. Bottom line, that whole post of mine is about people needing to learn to the meaning of humility.
Don, my whole stance on this matter is that some of our members doesn't seem to understand the meaning of humility. It also applies to our relationship with the rivaling fandoms. So what if this is a NH chapter?? that's fine by me. I don't mind, even we can be proven wrong. We've often painted the NH fans as arrogant pricks (not bashing, mods. I'm just saying), but that doesn't mean we have to be so as well. We need to show them we're the better men (and women

) by admitting our short-comings.
I think, that
once, just this
once, we need to admit to them that they
may be right for once. That doesn't mean we have to give up on our pairing. We can always still strike back. It's like a basketball game or whatever, you meet one of the opposing players in the hallway, the best thing you can do is admit that you've lost this quarter, but you tell 'em off that it doesn't mean they've won just yet. It ain't over till the final whistle rings.
EDIT: Just read your latest posts.
Now, that's the kind of analysis I'm talking about. An analysis that doesn't seem so rushed, and extremely well done at that. I certainly am not being fair towards other members, by holding you in higher standards, but nevertheless, your posts are examples that people need to take after.
I also realize people can't brainstorm as well as you do, but at the very least, I think what people need to learn from people like you and several other great members, is that when making an analysis, is to try to be as thorough as possible.
Edited by Codus N, 05 January 2013 - 05:06 PM.