-sigh- Im sorry, but has logic just gone backwards now? I really don't think anyone knows what true love is in anymore and honestly see it at such face value that people are now being categorized in it.
Myself especially it feels like I am always on the losing end.
If I am a nice guy and is kind and sweet, cracking jokes, and just want to have a good time, apparently I am just a selfish prick who just wants sex and only loves women for their body. If I am a mean spirit person, I get told that treating people like crap is not how to treat people and nobody likes that.
So what do you call a guy who just doesn't want to feel alone in the world anymore? A guy who just want a girl to share his life with. To laugh, cry, have good days and bad days with them. A girl who can understand them; understand what he really wants and understand why he does some things a certain way even if that way may be wrong? What do you call a guy who just want a girl to wrap her arms around him and tell him that it is okay?
You see, whenever I read these arguments or articles about "Nice guy" or whatever, they always so willing to talk about the issues with the said Nice guy, but never do they look at that perhaps it is society that made them this way. What if the issue is not the guy, but girls giving off the wrong messages of what they think is "good" and really just accusing people of stuff so much that it eventually becomes true? What if it is a little bit of everything?
When we grow up we are taught manners and respect, but now whenever I give respect some people will be like "Well, all you want is sex." Like where did this come from?
Now we have Naruto who gives the whole "Nice guy" persona and even bigger reason to hate because Kishimoto decided "it was a rivalry game." So all the sacrifice Naruto did, all the caring, and such..."Naruto just wanted to bang Sakura." Is that what Naruto was about? Perhaps that is why Hinata was so nice to Naruto too. She just wanted to bang him. If there is a "nice guy" can't there also be the "Nice girl?" A girl who just puts on an act to get sexual enjoyment out of a specific man? Is the Naruto story nothing more than a group of liars who are now paying the price for living a lie? Certainly seems like it.
Now, I don't even know what to think anymore. I can't be nice to females, I can;t be mean, I can't be myself....I can't be anything and just asking for one girl who gives me hope in my life is apparently me being too selfish and too pathetic. This is the new world we live in. You know I already know I am emotionally broken. I am bipolar, I am a depressant, and I have done things in my life that I am not proud of, but it doesn't mean I chose this life or that I want to keep living it. People always like to judge, but never do they want to try and fix or help the people who are suffering.
This is just a bad world. Nobody wants to help anyone anymore because everyone assumes that the person is after ulterior motives. No one. People can't trust each other and we have no one but ourselves to blame for it.
Isn't there anybody in this world, besides me, who would actually go out of their way to help someone for no reason other than "I don't want to see them suffer?" I hate when people suffer. I hate when people lose hope. I can;t explain why, but just the fact that I can't stand seeing a person so sad and alone feeling like all anybody does is ignore them or call their problems trivial.
A couple of times I feel like a kid in a sandbox. Tears in his eyes, but with a smile on his face trying to rebuild is sand castle in hoping one day it will come a reality for him
I'm sorry to dig up such an old post (relatively speaking) but I was out of town this weekend and this was the first post I saw. And I have to ask: are you being purposefully obtuse and difficult when it comes to the issue of the difference between a genuinely nice and polite person and the type of manipulative individuals who are "nice guys," or do you just not understand the difference?